Kodi muli ndi ubale wapamtima ndi mwana wamkulu woleredwa, mwana wopeza kapena munthu wina amene mumamuona ngati mwana wanu? Kodi mungakonde kukhazikitsa ubale wapaderawu potengera ana ena, koma mukuganiza kuti sizingatheke chifukwa munthuyo ndi wamkulu kale? Nkhani yabwino: ku Netherlands, ndizotheka kutengera munthu wamkulu pamilandu yapadera. Ngakhale kuti pali mikhalidwe yokhwima, mikhalidwe yapadera komanso maziko olimba azamalamulo atha kukhala chinsinsi cha kufunsira kopambana. Kusamalira ana olera ndi njira kwa anthu omwe akufuna kuwonjezera mabanja awo. Mu blog iyi tikambirana za kuthekera kwalamulo ndi momwe tingakuthandizireni.
N’cifukwa ciani tiyenela kusankha kulela anthu achikulire?
Kulera munthu wamkulu sikungokhudza malamulo okha. Zimapereka mapindu amalingaliro ndi othandiza, kuphatikizapo mfundo yakuti kulera mwana kunyumba ku Netherlands sikofala kwambiri poyerekeza ndi kulera ana ochokera kunja. Pafupifupi ana 700 ochokera kumayiko ena amatengedwa ku Netherlands chaka chilichonse.
– Ubale wa m'banja wovomerezeka mwalamulo : Izi zingakhale zofunika kwambiri pakupeza ufulu ndi maudindo ofanana m'banja.
- Kumva kukhazikika ndi kuvomereza : Kwa onse omwe akutenga ana ndi omwe atenga ana, kutenga ana kungapereke mtendere wamumtima ndi mgwirizano.
– Mtengo wophiphiritsira : Kukhazikitsa mgwirizano kumasonyeza kuzindikirana ndi chikondi, zomwe zingakhale zofunika kwambiri paubwenzi wa munthu ndi munthu.
Kuonjezera phindu limeneli, kulera achikulire kungathandizenso zinthu zokhudza ufulu wa cholowa, kuonetsetsa kuti wolera ali ndi ufulu wolandira cholowa kuchokera kwa kholo lomulera monga mmene mwana wobadwayo angachitire. Ingathenso kutsogoza zisankho zokhudzana ndi chisamaliro chaumoyo ndi zachuma, kupatsa kholo lolera kuti achitepo kanthu m'malo mwa wolera ngati kuli kofunikira. Kuzindikiridwa mwalamulo kumeneku kungakhale kofunikira makamaka ngati wolera wamkulu alibe ubale wapabanja womwe ulipo kapena pomwe maubwenziwo ali ovuta kapena atalikirana.
Kodi lamulo limati chiyani pa nkhani ya kulera ana akuluakulu?
Maziko ovomerezeka ku Netherlands aikidwa m'nkhani 1: 227 ndi 1: 228 ya Civil Code (BW). M'malo mwake, kukhazikitsidwa kumatheka kokha ngati pempholo likupangidwa mwana asanakwanitse zaka 18. Pali zochepa zokhazokha kwa akuluakulu. Zikatero, khotilo lidzakambirana za nkhani zapadera komanso ufulu wokhala ndi banja mogwirizana ndi Gawo 8 la Pangano Loona za Ufulu wa Anthu ku Ulaya (European Convention on Human Rights (ECHR).
Kodi munthu wamkulu angaleredwe liti?
Ngakhale kuti zofunika zazing'ono ndizofunika kwambiri, pali zochitika zomwe kulera munthu wamkulu kungakhale koyenera. Mwachitsanzo, oweruza angaganizire zotsatirazi
- Ubale wautali wa kholo ndi mwana: Ngati pali ubale wapamtima wofanana ndi wachikhalidwe wa makolo ndi mwana, ichi chingakhale chosankha.
- Mikhalidwe yapadera: Zopwetekedwa mtima, ubwana wosakhazikika kapena zochitika zina zokhudzana ndi moyo zingapangitse kulera mwana kukhala kofunikira kuti munthu wamkulu akule.
- Kusowa kwa makolo obereka: Ngati makolo obereka sakukhudzidwa (kapena sakukhudzidwanso) ndi moyo wa munthu wamkulu, kapena ngati avomereza mwatsatanetsatane kulera, izi zimawonjezera mwayi wa chigamulo cha khoti.
- Kukhazikika kwamalingaliro ndi malingaliro: Ngati kulera ana kungathandizire ku mtendere wamalingaliro ndi chitukuko cha munthu wolera, izi zimatengedwa ngati mtsutso wofunikira.
- Nthawi yofunsira: Kufunsira kuyenera kutsimikizidwa mosamalitsa ndi zifukwa zomwe kulera sikunafunsidwepo kale, mwachitsanzo, kusadziwa zosankha zalamulo kapena chikole chokhazikitsidwa posachedwapa.
Komabe, ndikofunika kutsindika kuti zomwe zili pamwambazi sizokhazo zomwe zidzaganizidwe ndi woweruza. Mkhalidwe uliwonse ndi wapadera ndipo udzawunikidwa kwathunthu. Woweruzayo aziganizira mozama nkhani zonse zalamulo, zamaganizo komanso zothandiza. Umboni wonga mawu, malipoti ndi zitsanzo zenizeni za unansi wa kholo ndi mwana udzakhala wofunika kwambiri pokhutiritsa woweruzayo. Kupyolera mu kusanthula kwathunthu za mkhalidwe wanu momwe ntchito yolerera ingatsimikiziridwire bwino. Kampani yathu ili ndi chidziwitso chochulukirapo popereka zovuta zotere.
Kuphatikiza pazifukwa izi, khoti lidzalingaliranso zokhumba ndi chilolezo cha munthu wamkulu kuti atengedwe, kuonetsetsa kuti kulera kumagwirizana ndi zofuna zawo komanso zofuna zawo. Njirayi imalemekeza kudziyimira pawokha kwa munthu wamkulu ndipo ikufuna kupewa kukakamiza kulikonse kapena kukakamizidwa kosayenera. Ndizofunikira kudziwa kuti kukhazikitsidwa kwapadziko lonse kudayimitsidwa kuyambira February 2021 mpaka Novembala 2022 chifukwa cha nkhawa zomwe zidachitika m'mbuyomu.
Kodi njira yolerera ana imagwira ntchito bwanji?
Njirayi imayamba ndikuwunika bwino momwe zinthu zilili. Ndiye, ngati mutasankha kupitiriza malinga ndi zomwe mwapeza, tikhoza kulemba pempho loyenera. Muyenera kuyambitsa njira yolerera ana popereka pempho kukhothi ku Netherlands. Ndikofunikiranso kudziwa kuti muyenera kukhala wokhala ku Netherlands kuti mukhale ndi mwana wachi Dutch.
Maloya athu adzakutsogolerani njira iliyonse, kuphatikizapo kuwonetsetsa kuti muli ndi oyimira pazamalamulo, popeza loya akuyenera kupereka pempho kukhothi kuti akulereni ku Netherlands. Mukalandira kuchokera kudziko la Msonkhano wa Hague, kulera ku Netherlands nthawi zambiri kumazindikirika, kufewetsa ndondomeko yalamulo. Komabe, ngati mutenga mwana kunja kwa Netherlands, muyenera kufunsira pasipoti ya Dutch kwa mwanayo ndikukhala ndi zikalata zakunja zovomerezeka. Mungafunike kumasulira ndikulembetsa satifiketi yobadwa musanapemphe pasipoti yaku Dutch ya mwana wanu woleredwa. Dzina la mwanayo lidzawonekera mu pasipoti monga momwe zasonyezedwera mu chiphaso chobadwa pokhapokha atasinthidwa musanagwiritse ntchito.
- Kupenda mkhalidwe wanu: Timayang'ana ngati ubale wanu ndi wamkulu ukukwaniritsa zofunikira zamalamulo komanso zochitika zapadera zomwe tingadalire.
- Kulemba pempho: Chikalatachi chili ndi zifukwa zamalamulo ndi umboni wochirikiza mlandu wanu. Tinafotokoza chifukwa chake kulera ana m'dera lanu kuli koyenera kwa onse okhudzidwa.
- Thandizo la khoti: Tidzakuyimirani pamlanduwo ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mlandu wanu waperekedwa mwamphamvu.
- Kusamalira pambuyo ndi chitsogozo: Pambuyo pakulera, tidzapitiliza kukulangizani za cholowa ndi nkhani zina zamalamulo. Msonkhano wa ku Hague Adoption Convention, womwe udasainidwa ndi mayiko 66 mu 1993, umatsimikizira zokonda za ana pakulera komanso umapereka dongosolo la mgwirizano wapadziko lonse.
Njira yolerera mwana imatha kukhala yovuta komanso yowononga nthawi, yomwe nthawi zambiri imafunikira zolemba zatsatanetsatane ndipo nthawi zina malipoti a akatswiri kuti athandizire ntchitoyi. Kuonjezera apo, ndondomekoyi ku Netherlands ikhoza kukhala yayitali komanso yokwera mtengo, ndi ndalama zotengera mwana wochokera kunja kuchokera ku 10,000 mpaka 40,000 euro kapena kuposerapo, kupanga kukonzekera mokwanira kofunika kwambiri kuti apereke mlandu wokhutiritsa kukhoti.
Chifukwa chiyani malangizo azamalamulo ndi ofunikira
Kulera munthu wamkulu kumafuna chidziwitso chokwanira cha momwe malamulo amakhalira komanso njira yabwino. Kampani yathu ili ndi chidziwitso pamilandu yovuta yolera ana ndipo imatha kukuthandizani kulemba pempho lamphamvu. Njira zoberekera mwana zingakhale zazitali komanso zodula, mosasamala kanthu kuti mwanayo akuchokera kunja kapena Netherlands. Mwachitsanzo, kutengera mwana kuchokera kunja kumatha kutenga zaka zitatu kapena zisanu. Pamodzi, tiwona momwe zinthu zilili pa moyo wanu ndikumanga mlandu wolimba kuti kulera mwana kuchitike.
Bwanji osankha Law & More?
Timamvetsetsa kuti kulera munthu wamkulu sikungotsatira malamulo - kumakhudza banja, chikondi ndi kuzindikira. Kampani yathu imaphatikiza ukatswiri wamalamulo ndi kudzipereka kwanu. Ndife odziwa zambiri pazochitika zovuta zolerera ana ndipo timadziwa momwe mungafotokozere bwino nkhani yanu kuti muwonjezere mwayi wanu wopambana. Pazaka 50 zapitazi, makolo achi Dutch adatengera ana pafupifupi 40,000 ochokera m'mayiko a 80, kusonyeza kufunika kolera ana pomanga mabanja. Komabe, ndikofunikira kudziwa kuti mu 2023, maiko 50 okha ndi omwe adalandira ana omwe adatengedwa ku Netherlands, zomwe zikuwonetsa zomwe zikuchitikabe pakuletsa kutengera ana pakati pa mayiko chifukwa cha zomwe zidachitika kale. Chiwerengero cha anthu otengera ana pakati pa mayiko chakhala chikucheperachepera zaka zambiri zisanachitike. Mwachitsanzo, ana 70 adatengedwa ku Netherlands mu 2020 panthawi ya mliri wa COVID-19, ndipo ana 145 adalandiridwa mu 2019. Boma la Dutch likuletsa kulera ana pakati pa mayiko pofika 2030 chifukwa cha nkhawazi.
Ndi chithandizo chathu, mukhoza kudalira
- Njira yofananira: Mlandu uliwonse ndi wapadera ndipo umayenera kuchitidwa payekha.
- Kulankhulana momveka bwino: Timafotokozera mawu ovuta azamalamulo m'chilankhulo chosavuta.
- Thandizo lathunthu: kuyambira pakukambirana mpaka kumva ndi kupitilira apo.
Anthu osakwatiwa angathenso kuyambitsa ndondomeko yolera mwanayo ngati asamalira ndi kulera mwanayo kwa chaka chimodzi. Ngati ndinu okwatirana, mukhoza kutenga mwana mosasamala kanthu za banja lanu ndi wokondedwa wanu kapena mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu. Muyenera kukhala ndi dzina latsopano lowonjezeredwa ku satifiketi yobadwa musanapemphe pasipoti yokhala ndi dzina losinthidwa.
- Njira yofananira: Mlandu uliwonse ndi wapadera ndipo umayenera kuchitidwa payekha.
- Kulankhulana momveka bwino: Timafotokozera mawu ovuta azamalamulo m'chilankhulo chosavuta.
- Thandizo lathunthu: kuyambira pakukambirana mpaka kumva ndi kupitilira apo.
Tathandiza mabanja ambiri mwachipambano kudzera mu njira zovuta zolerera ana. Timamvetsetsa kufunikira kosintha mautumiki athu kuti agwirizane ndi vuto lililonse.
Kukhazikitsidwa kwanu kumayambira pano
Kodi mukufuna kudziwa zambiri za njira zomwe mungasankhire munthu wamkulu kapena nkhani zina zokhudza malamulo a m'banja ? Lumikizanani nafe lero. Tili pano kuti tikuthandizeni panjira iliyonse. Aliyense amene akufuna kutenga mwana kupita naye ku malo osamalira ana ayenera kupita patsamba la Pleegzorg kuti mudziwe zambiri.



