Kusudzulana mwachangu: mumapanga bwanji?

Kusudzulana mwachangu: mumapanga bwanji?

Chisudzulo pafupifupi nthawi zonse chimakhala chovuta m'maganizo. Komabe, mmene chisudzulo chimapitira kungapangitse kusiyana kulikonse. Moyenera, aliyense angafune kuti chisudzulo chithe msanga. Koma mumachita bwanji zimenezo?

Mfundo 1: Pewani mikangano ndi mnzanu wakale

Mfundo yofunika kwambiri pankhani ya kusudzulana mwamsanga ndiyo kupewa mikangano ndi mnzanu wakale. Nthawi zambiri, nthawi yambiri imatayika pomenyana wina ndi mzake. Ngati okwatirana akale amalankhulana bwino ndi kusunga malingaliro awo pamlingo wakutiwakuti, chisudzulo chingapitirire mofulumira kwambiri. Sikuti izi zimangopulumutsa nthawi yochuluka ndi mphamvu zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito pomenyana, zimatanthauzanso kuti milandu yokhudzana ndi chisudzulo imathamanga mofulumira.

Langizo 2: Onani loya limodzi

Pamene omwe anali nawo kale atha kupanga mapangano, amatha kulemba ntchito loya mmodzi. Mwanjira imeneyi, nonse simufunikira loya wanu, koma loya wogwirizana angaphatikizepo makonzedwe okhudza chisudzulo m’pangano lachisudzulo ndi loya wothandizana naye. Izi zimapewa ndalama zowirikiza kawiri ndikupulumutsa nthawi yambiri. Kupatula apo, ngati pali pempho limodzi lachisudzulo, simuyenera kupita kukhoti. Kumbali ina, izi ndizochitika pamene onse awiri alemba ntchito loya wawo.

Kuphatikiza apo, pali zinthu zingapo zomwe inu ndi mnzanu wakale mungakonzekere musanalembe ntchito loya kuti mupulumutse nthawi ndi ndalama zambiri:

  • Kambiranani pasadakhale ndi mnzanu wakale zomwe mukupanga ndikuzilemba papepala. Mwanjira imeneyi, nkhani zina sizifunika kukambidwa motalika ndi loya ndipo loya amangofunika kuphatikiza mapanganowa m’chisudzulo;
  • Mutha kupanga kale mndandanda wazinthu zomwe zigawidwe. Musaganizire za chuma chokha, komanso mangawa aliwonse;
  • Konzani momwe mungathere ponena za malo, monga notary, ngongole yanyumba, kuwerengera ndi kugula nyumba yatsopano.

Langizo 3: Kuyanjanitsa

Ngati mulephera kukwaniritsa chisudzulo ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wakale, n’kwanzeru kuitana mkhalapakati. Ntchito ya mkhalapakati pachisudzulo ndi kutsogolera zokambirana pakati pa inu ndi mnzanu wakale monga gulu lachitatu lopanda tsankho. Kupyolera mu mkhalapakati, mayankho amafufuzidwa omwe onse awiri angagwirizane. Izi zikutanthauza kuti simuli mbali zotsutsana za mpanda koma mumagwira ntchito limodzi kuti muthetse kusamvana ndikukwaniritsa mapangano oyenera. Mukapeza yankho limodzi, mkhalapakati adzalemba zomwe zakonzedwa papepala. Pambuyo pake, inu ndi mnzanu wakale mungakambilane ndi loya, amene angaphatikizepo mapanganowo m’pangano lachisudzulo.

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