Kutha kwa banja nthawi zambiri kumayendetsedwa ndi kusagwirizana pakati pa abwenzi. Ngati inu ndi mnzanu mutasiyana ndipo simumagwirizana, mikangano imabuka kuti nthawi zina imatha kufalikira. Kusudzulana nthawi zina kumabweretsa mavuto kwa wina chifukwa cha momwe akumvera. Zikatero, mutha kuyimbira loya kuti apatsidwe ufulu. Adzatha kuyambitsa milandu m'malo mwanu. Komabe, pali mwayi wabwino kuti ana anu, mwachitsanzo, angathe kuvutika kwambiri chifukwa. Kuti mupewe mikanganoyi, mutha kusankhanso chisudzulo pogwiritsa ntchito njira yoyimira pakati. Mwakuchita izi, nthawi zambiri zimatchedwa kulumikizana pakati.
Kuyimira pakati ndi chiyani?
Aliyense amene ali ndi mkangano amafuna kuuthetsa mwamsanga. Nthawi zambiri mkangano umakhala utafika kale pamlingo wapamwamba kwambiri kotero kuti onse awiri sakuwonanso yankho. Kuthetsa mkangano kungasinthe zimenezo. Kuthetsa mkangano ndi njira yogwirizana yothetsera mkangano mothandizidwa ndi mkhalapakati wosalowerera ndale: mkhalapakati. Zambiri zokhudzana ndi kuthetsera mkangano zimapezeka patsamba lathu la kuthetsera mkangano.
Kodi maubwino owerengetsa banja ndi otani?
Kutha kwa banja mosasamala kumatha kubweretsa chisoni ndi kukhumudwa kwa zaka zikubwera. Kuyimilira ndi njira yobwererera yankho lolumikizirana, mwachitsanzo za momwe mungathanirane ndi ana, kugawa ndalama, kugawana alimony ndi mapangano okhudzana ndi penshoni.
Maphwando akabwera ku mgwirizano mu njira yolumikizirana, tidzaphatikizira izi mu mgwirizano wokhazikitsa. Pambuyo pake, mapangano omwe adapangidwa akhoza kuvomerezedwa ndi khothi.
M’chisudzulo chimene okwatiranawo adzayang’anizana m’khoti, kaŵirikaŵiri mmodzi wa okwatiranawo adzakhala ndi njira yake ndipo winayo ndiye woluza, titero kunena kwake. Mumkhalapakati, palibe otayika. Pamkhalapakati, kuyesayesa kumapangidwa kuti athetse mavuto pamodzi, kotero kuti kupambana-kupambana kumachitika kwa onse awiri. Izi ndizofunikira makamaka ngati okwatirana adzayenera kulimbana kwambiri pambuyo pa chisudzulo.
Mwachitsanzo, talingalirani za mkhalidwe umene ana amaloŵetsedwamo. Zikatero, nkofunika kuti okwatirana akale athe kudutsa khomo limodzi pamodzi pambuyo pa chisudzulo. Ubwino winanso wa mkhalapakati ndikuti nthawi zambiri umakhala wotsika mtengo komanso wosalemetsa kuposa milandu yayitali.
Kodi kuyimira pakati kumagwira ntchito bwanji?
Pokhala pakati, maphwando amalankhulana motsogozedwa ndi mkhalapakati waluso. Mkhalapakati ndi mkhalapakati wodziimira yekha yemwe, pamodzi ndi maphwando, amayang'ana njira yothetsera vuto lomwe aliyense amavomereza. Mkhalapakati samangoyang'ana mbali yalamulo ya mlanduwo, komanso mavuto aliwonse omwe ali nawo. Maphwandowo amabwera ku mgwirizano wogwirizana, womwe mkhalapakati amalemba mu mgwirizano wothetsa. Mkhalapakati sanena maganizo ake.
Choncho, kuyimira pakati kumakhazikika pa kufuna kukwaniritsa mgwirizano pamodzi, mwachikhulupiriro. Njira yoyimbiranayi ndi yabwino kusiyana ndi kuzenga mlandu kukhoti. Tsopano kuti mapanganowo apangidwa palimodzi, palinso mwayi waukulu woti maphwandowo azitsatira.
Mkhalapakati akuwonetsetsa kuti onse akutha kunena nkhani yawoyomwe komanso kuti wina akumvetsera. Mukamayankhulana ndi mkhalapakati padzakhala chisamaliro chokwanira cha momwe maphwando akumvera. Zomverazo zimafunikira kukambitsirana musanachite mapangano abwino. Kuphatikiza apo, mkhalapakati akuwonetsetsa kuti mapangano omwe maguluwo akuchita ndi olondola mwalamulo.
Masitepe anayi pokambirana
- Zoyankhulana. Pakufunsidwa koyamba, mkhalapakati akufotokozera momveka bwino tanthauzo lake. Kenako maphwandowo amasaina mgwirizano wokambirana. Mchigwirizanochi, maphwando amavomereza kuti zokambirana ndizachinsinsi, kuti atenga nawo mbali modzifunira ndipo atenga nawo mbali pazokambirana. Magulu ali ndi ufulu kusiya njira yolumikizirana nthawi iliyonse.
- Gawo lothandizananso ndi mavuto. Motsogozedwa ndi mkhalapakati, mkanganowu umawunikidwa mpaka malingaliro onse ndi zokonda zake zimveka.
- Gawo lokambirana. Magulu onse awiriwa amabwera kuti athetse mavuto. Amakumbukira kuti yankho lake liyenera kukhala labwino kwa onse. Mwanjira imeneyi, mapangano oyenera amapangidwa.
- Pangani nthawi. Woyimira mkhalapakati adzaika mapangano onse papepala, mwachitsanzo, mgwirizano wapakhomo, dongosolo la kulera kapena pangano la chisudzulo. Kenako zimaperekedwa kukhothi kuti zitsimikizidwe.
Kodi mukufunanso kukonza chisudzulo chanu mwa kupanga mapangano awiri? Kapena mukufuna kudziwa ngati njira yothetsera mavuto ingakhale yankho labwino kwa inu? Musazengereze kulankhulana ndi ofesi yathu. Tidzakhala okondwa kukuthandizani kusankha njira yothetsera mavuto.
