Ponena za kuvomereza kupsompsona mwana , yankho nthawi zambiri limakhala inde kapena ayi. Lamuloli lilibe lamulo lenileni la kupsompsona kamodzi kokha. M'malo mwake, limayang'ana zonse zomwe zikuchitika kudzera mu lenzi yoteteza ana ku nkhanza ndi kuzunzidwa.
Kupsompsonana mwachikondi nthawi zambiri sikoletsedwa. Komabe, kuchita chimodzimodziko kungadutse malire mpaka kufika pamlingo waupandu ngati kumaonedwa ngati kuchita zinthu zosayenera kapena gawo la kugonana ndi munthu wosakwana zaka zovomerezeka.
Kuyankha Kaya Kupsompsona Mwana Wang'ono Ndikololedwa
Taganizirani izi ngati lamulo lomveka bwino la pamsewu koma ngati chigamulo chochokera pa cholinga ndi zochitika zinazake. Kumenya tsaya kwachifupi, kosakhudzana ndi kugonana kwa mnzanu wa m'banja ndi nkhani yosiyana ndi kupsompsonana kwachikondi pakati pa wamkulu ndi wachinyamata. Lamuloli lapangidwa kuti limvetsetse ndikusiyanitsa pakati pa zochitika zosiyana kwambirizi.
Kukuthandizani kuwona momwe kusiyanitsa uku kumachitikira, nayi chitsogozo chachangu cha momwe zochitika zosiyanasiyana zimawonedwa nthawi zambiri pamalamulo.
Kalozera Wofulumira Wazamalamulo Motengera Zochitika
| Chitsanzo | Zomwe Zingachitike Zamalamulo | Zinthu Zofunikira |
|---|---|---|
| Kupsompsonana kwachidule kosagonana (monga tsaya, mphumi) | Nthawi zambiri zovomerezeka | Amatengedwa ngati manja osalakwa, achikondi opanda cholinga chogonana. |
| Kupsompsona mwachikondi kapena "French". | Zosaloledwa | Chikhalidwe cha kupsopsonana ndi kugonana; akhoza kutchulidwa ngati chinthu chonyansa kapena chonyansa. |
| Kupsopsonani pakati pa achinyamata awiri oyandikira msinkhu | Nthawi zambiri malamulo, malinga ndi boma | Madera ambiri ali ndi malamulo a "azaka zapakati" kapena "Romeo ndi Juliet" omwe amaphatikiza maubwenzi ogwirizana pakati pa anzawo. |
| Kupsopsonani pakati pa wamkulu ndi wachinyamata | Chiwopsezo chachikulu chakuphwanya malamulo | Kusiyana kwakukulu kwa msinkhu ndi mbendera yofiira kwambiri kwa otsutsa, makamaka ngati wamkulu ali ndi udindo. |
| Kupsompsonana kokhudza munthu wodalirika (mwachitsanzo, mphunzitsi, mphunzitsi) | Pafupifupi nthawi zonse zosaloledwa | Izi zimawoneka ngati kugwiritsa ntchito molakwa mphamvu ndi ulamuliro, ndipo kuvomereza sikutheka mwalamulo pankhaniyi. |
Monga momwe tebulo likusonyezera, nkhani yozungulira chochitikacho ndi chirichonse. Chinthu chimodzi chokha chingasinthiretu kutanthauzira kwalamulo.
Mfundo zazikuluzikulu Zomwe Zimatsimikizira Zalamulo
Mlandu ukafika kukhoti, ozenga milandu samangoyang'ana kupsopsona komweko. Amasanthula zinthu zingapo zofunika kwambiri kuti aone ngati kuchita munthu wosalakwa kwakhala mlandu wolangidwa. Kumvetsetsa zinthu izi ndikofunikira kuti mumvetsetse komwe kuli malire azamalamulo.
- Chikhalidwe cha Kiss: Kodi chinali chosavuta, chosonyeza chikondi, kapena chinali kugonana mwachibadwa? Mwachitsanzo, “kupsompsona kwachifalansa,” pafupifupi nthaŵi zonse kumawonedwa kukhala kugonana. Kupsompsonana kogonana ndi mwana wamng'ono nthawi zambiri kumatsutsidwa ngati "mchitidwe wonyansa."
- The Age Gap: Ichi ndi chachikulu. Kusiyana kwa msinkhu pakati pa anthu awiriwa kumayankhula momveka bwino. Kupsompsonana pakati pa achinyamata awiri omwe ali pafupi msinkhu kumawonedwa mosiyana kwambiri ndi mmodzi wapakati a 30 wazaka zapakati ndi 15 wazaka zapakati.
- Mphamvu Dynamics: Makhoti amayang'anitsitsa kwambiri ngati munthu wachikulire ali ndi udindo wodalirika, ulamuliro, kapena wodalira. Izi zikuphatikizapo maudindo monga a mphunzitsi, mphunzitsi, mtsogoleri wachipembedzo, ngakhale wachibale. Kuthekera kwa kugwiriridwa kumawonedwa kukhala kokwera kwambiri mu maubwenzi awa.
- Chilolezo ndi Kukhwima: Ngakhale kuti ana ang'onoang'ono saloledwa mwalamulo kuchita zogonana, malamulo nthawi zina amaganizira zaka zawo ndi msinkhu wawo. Izi ndizofunikira makamaka pakukhululukidwa kwa "zaka zapakati", pomwe achinyamata awiri ali paubwenzi wogwirizana.
Pamapeto pake, ngati kupsompsona ndi koletsedwa kumabwera momwe zinthu izi zimayendera. Chimene chingaoneke ngati chosalakwa chikhoza kukhala chigawenga chachikulu ngati chichitika m’njira yodyera masuku pamutu, ulamuliro, kapena cholinga chofuna kugonana, makamaka ngati pali kusiyana kwakukulu kwa zaka.
Kumvetsetsa Malire Ofunika Azamalamulo
Kuti mudziwe ngati chinthu ngati kupsompsona chikudutsa malire, choyamba muyenera kukhala omasuka ndi momwe malamulo amalankhulira. Mfundo zina zamalamulo zimakhala ngati malire otsimikizika, kulekanitsa zomwe zimawonedwa ngati zosalakwa ndi mlandu. Chochita chikhoza kukhala chabwino pachokha, koma mukawonjezera zinthu zina, chikhoza kukankhidwira kumalo osaloledwa.
Lingalirani ngati bwalo lamasewera. Wosewera akuthamanga ndi mpira ali bwino, koma akatuluka, masewerawo amasintha. M'malamulo, malingaliro ngati 'm'badwo wololeza' ndi 'zochita zosayenera' ndi mizere yofunika kwambiri.
Kufotokozera M'badwo Wovomereza
Zaka zovomerezeka ndi zaka zenizeni zomwe munthu amaonedwa kuti ndi wamkulu mokwanira kuti avomere kuchita zachiwerewere. Ku Netherlands, monga m'malo ena ambiri, zaka zimenezo zimakhala zaka 16. Kugonana kulikonse ndi munthu wazaka zochepa kuposa izi nthawi zambiri kumakhala kosaloledwa chifukwa, malinga ndi lamulo, mwana sangathe kupereka chilolezo chovomerezeka.
Lingaliro limeneli ndilo maziko enieni a malamulo opangidwira kuteteza achinyamata. Ndi kuvomereza kwalamulo kuti uchikulire—ndi luso lotha kusankha zochita mwanzeru pankhani ya kugonana—zimakula m’kupita kwa nthaŵi. Sichiwerengero chabe; ndi kuteteza anthu omwe sangamvetse bwino zotsatira zake kapena omwe ali pachiwopsezo chowadyera masuku pamutu.
Ntchito yaikulu ya lamulo pano si chikondi cha apolisi, koma kusiya kuchitirana masuku pamutu. Zimapanga mzere womveka bwino, wotetezera kuti uteteze ana ku zochitika zomwe sangathe kupereka chilolezo chomveka chifukwa cha msinkhu wawo kapena kusagwirizana kwa mphamvu.
Kusiyana kumeneku ndi kofunikira kwambiri. Ichi ndichifukwa chake kujodola patsaya loperekedwa kwa msuweni wachinyamata kumawonedwa mosiyana kwambiri ndi kupsompsonana kwachikondi pakati pa wachinyamata ndi wamkulu. Yoyamba ilibe cholinga chogonana, pamene yachiwiri ikhoza kutchulidwa mosavuta ngati kugonana.
Zomwe Zimapanga Mchitidwe Wosayenera Kapena Kugonana
Lamulo nthawi zambiri limalankhula m'mawu okulirapo, pogwiritsa ntchito mawu monga 'zochita zosayenera' kapena 'zochita zogonana' m'malo molemba momveka bwino chilichonse chomwe chingachitike. Simungapeze mawu oti "kupsompsonana" mu lamulo. M'malo mwake, ndi nkhani ndi mtundu wa kupsompsonana komwe kumasankha ngati kukugwirizana ndi magulu akuluakulu alamulo awa.
Mchitidwe nthawi zambiri umaonedwa ngati wosayenera kapena wogonana kutengera zinthu zingapo zofunika:
- Mmene Mungayankhulire: Kupsompsonana kwachifalansa, mwachitsanzo, nthawi zonse kumawoneka ngati kugonana.
- Cholinga cha Chipani Chachikulu: Kodi mchitidwewo unali wofuna kukhutiritsa kugonana?
- Zochitika Zonse: Izi zikukhudza chilichonse kuyambira pomwe zidachitika komanso ubale pakati pa anthu omwe akukhudzidwa, mpaka ngati pali zina zogonana zomwe zidachitika.
Kusanthula mitu yazamalamuloyi kumafuna njira yosamala komanso yosamalitsa. Pamapeto pake, kupeza matanthauzo awa moyenera ndikofunikira. Mwachitsanzo, nkhani zambiri m’malamulo a m’banja ndi mkangano wolera mwana zimachititsa kuti khotilo limatanthauzire zimene zimachititsa kuti mwana akhale wotetezeka.
Kuyang'ana pa Dutch Legal Framework
Mukafufuza malamulo aku Dutch, mupeza njira yotetezera ku nkhanza, osati kulanga kusonyeza chikondi kokha. Funso lenileni—kaya kupsompsona mwana wamng'ono n'kosaloledwa—zonse zimadalira momwe Dutch Criminal Code imatanthauzira mchitidwewo. Palibe lamulo lomwe limaletsa kupsompsonana. M'malo mwake, cholinga chake ndi pa mfundo zazikulu monga "zochita zosayenera" ndi "zochita zogonana," makamaka pamene zimakhudza munthu wosakwana zaka zomwe munthuyo ayenera kuvomereza.
Dongosolo lonseli limadalira kwambiri Nkhani 245 ndi 247 za Dutch Criminal Code. Nkhani ziwirizi ndi maziko oyendetsera milandu yokhudza ana aang'ono. Zimakhazikitsa malire, ndipo kupsompsonana kumatha kukhala mbali yolakwika ngati kuli ngati gawo la chiwerewere kapena chigololo. Apa ndi pomwe nkhani ndi cholinga cha kupsompsonana zimakhala zofunika kwambiri pakuwunika kulikonse kwalamulo.
Zaka za Chilolezo ndi Zomwe Zimapanga "Mchitidwe Wosayenera"
Ku Netherlands, zaka zovomerezeka zovomerezeka zogonana ndi zaka 16. Izi ndi zomveka bwino. Kugonana kulikonse ndi munthu wosakwana zaka 16 nthawi zambiri kumaonedwa ngati mlandu, chifukwa lamulo likuganiza kuti munthu wosakwana zaka izi sangathe kupereka chilolezo chovomerezeka mwalamulo.
Ngati kupsompsonana ndi chinthu chokhudza mtima kapena mbali ya machitidwe osiyanasiyana okhudzana ndi kugonana, kungatchulidwe mosavuta ngati "chinthu chosayenera" motsatira Nkhani 247. Zilango zomwe zili pano sizochepa. Motsatira Nkhani 245, kulowa m'malo mwa kugonana kwa munthu wazaka zapakati pa 12 ndi 16 kungapangitse kuti akhale m'ndende kwa zaka zisanu ndi zitatu . Pa gulu lonse la machitidwe osayenerera motsatira Nkhani 247, chilango chachikulu ndi kumangidwa kwa zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi . Zilango zolimbazi zikusonyeza momwe malamulo aku Dutch amaonera chitetezo cha ana.
Zofunika Zamalamulo Zomwe Muyenera Kudziwa
Malamulo a ku Netherlands si achinyengo kwenikweni. Ali ndi kusinthasintha komwe kumalola kuzindikira zenizeni za ubale wa achinyamata, makamaka kudzera mu zomwe zimadziwika kuti kusaloledwa kulembetsa milandu yapafupi . Izi zimapatsa otsutsa mwayi wosankha.
Mfundo yonse ya kukhululukidwa kumeneku ndikupewa kuphwanya maubwenzi ogwirizana pakati pa achinyamata omwe ali pafupi ndi msinkhu wawo. Ubale pakati pa wazaka 15 ndi wazaka 17, mwachitsanzo, umawonedwa kudzera m'mawonekedwe osiyana kwambiri ndi omwe ali ndi kusiyana kwakukulu muzaka ndi mphamvu.
Koma kusinthasintha uku sikuli kwaulere kwa onse. Akuluakulu adzayang'anabe mozama za momwe zinthu zilili kuti zitsimikizire kuti ubalewo ndi wabwino. Adzalingalira zinthu zingapo zofunika:
- Mkhalidwe wa ubale: Kodi chimazikidwadi pa chikondi ndi kulemekezana?
- Kukhwima m'malingaliro: Kodi anthu onse awiri ali pamlingo wofanana wa chitukuko?
- Mphamvu zamphamvu: Kodi munthu mmodzi ali ndi udindo wolamulira kapena kukopa mnzake?
Ngati pali kusalinganika kwa mphamvu kwamtundu uliwonse-monga pakati pa mphunzitsi ndi wophunzira-kapena ngati pali lingaliro la kudyerana masuku pamutu, kukhululukidwa kumeneku sikungagwire ntchito. Cholinga chachikulu cha lamuloli ndi chitetezo, ndipo vuto lililonse lomwe limakhala lokakamiza kapena logwiritsa ntchito molakwa chikhulupiriro lidzafufuzidwa bwino. Chifukwa chake, ngakhale kupsopsonana kwachangu pakati pa achinyamata awiri kungakhale kopanda vuto, kuchita chimodzimodzi mwanjira ina kungayambitse vuto lalikulu lazamalamulo, kuyambira chindapusa chambiri mpaka nthawi yandende.
Kulumikiza Lamulo la Chi Dutch ku Zowona Zachikhalidwe
Malamulo amalamulo sakhala opanda kanthu; amalumikizana ndi zikhalidwe za chikhalidwe ndi machitidwe a tsiku ndi tsiku. Kuti mumvetse bwino ngati kupsompsona mwana wamng'ono sikuloledwa ku Netherlands, ndizothandiza kugwirizanitsa kalata yalamulo ndi zochitika zenizeni za chitukuko cha achinyamata. Lamulo lazamalamulo limapereka malire, koma anthu nthawi zambiri amatiwonetsa momwe anthu amayendera mipata yomwe ili mkati mwa mizereyo.
Kulumikizana uku kukuwonetsa chifukwa chake akuluakulu azamalamulo ku Dutch nthawi zambiri amangokhalira kudyerana masuku pamutu m'malo mokhala ndi maubwenzi achichepere. Lamuloli lapangidwa kuti liteteze ku nkhanza, osati chida choikira milandu njira zachilendo, zosasangalatsa, komanso zachikondi zomwe achinyamata amachita akamakula.
Kukula kwa Achinyamata ndi Kutanthauzira Kwamalamulo
Chinthu chofunika kwambiri pankhaniyi ndi kumvetsetsa momwe khalidwe la achinyamata limagwirizanirana ndi malire a malamulo. Ngakhale kuti zaka za ku Netherlands zovomerezeka mwalamulo zili pa 16 , ziwerengero zimasonyeza bwino moyo wa achinyamata.
Kafukufuku waposachedwapa akuwonetsa zomwe zikuchitika ku Netherlands. Kafukufuku akusonyeza kuti ngakhale zaka zovomerezeka zovomerezeka ndi zaka 16, zaka zapakati zogonana koyamba kwa wachinyamata zinali pafupifupi zaka 18.17 mu 2020. Izi zikusonyeza kuti kugonana kogonana nthawi zambiri kumachitika mochedwa kuposa momwe lamulo limaloleza. Mutha kudziwa zambiri za zomwe zapezeka pakukula kwa achinyamata mu pepala lonse la kafukufuku wa 2021.
Detayo ikuwonetsanso kuti machitidwe ena, monga kupsompsonana kwachifalansa, samatsatira zaka zomwezo. Kusagwirizana kumeneku kumakhala kofala kwambiri pakati pa achichepere, zomwe zikuwonetsa kuti anthu komanso, mokulira, mabungwe azamalamulo, nthawi zambiri amawawona kukhala osiyana ndi chiwerewere chowopsa.
Chowonadi ichi chimathandizira njira yalamulo yomwe imayika patsogolo nkhani. Pamene machitidwe okondana monga kupsopsonana achitika pakati pa anzawo monga njira yachitukuko, sangakopeke ndi kupendedwa kwalamulo. Komabe, kupita patsogolo kosafunikira kapena kosalekeza kumatha kudutsa magawo osiyanasiyana azamalamulo.
Lingaliro lodziwitsidwa ndi datali limalimbitsa lingaliro loti ntchito yayikulu ya lamulo ndikuzindikira ndikuletsa kugwiriridwa. Imasiyanitsa pakati pa kupsompsonana kogwirizana komwe kumachitika pakati pa ana awiri azaka 15 ndi kupsopsonana kokhudza zaka zazikulu kapena kusagwirizana kwamphamvu. Yoyambayo nthawi zambiri imawonedwa ngati gawo labwinobwino la kukula, pomwe womalizayo moyenerera amadzutsa nkhawa zazamalamulo.
Kuti mumvetse bwino za malamulo achi Dutch ngati kupsompsona mwana wamng'ono sikuloledwa, zimathandiza kuona momwe zimakhalira motsutsana ndi Ulaya yense. Ngakhale mayiko ambiri ali patsamba lomwelo za kuteteza ana, malamulo ovomerezeka amatha kusiyanasiyana kuchokera kumayiko ena. Izi zikungowonetsa momwe kulili kofunikira kudziwa malamulo akumaloko, kulikonse komwe mungakhale.
Dziko la Netherlands, monga mayiko ena ambiri oyandikana nalo, limaika zaka zovomerezeka pa zaka 16. Zaka zimenezi nthawi zambiri zimaonedwa ngati mgwirizano wabwino, zomwe zimapatsa achinyamata ufulu wodzilamulira pomwe zimawateteza kwambiri ku nkhanza. Koma malamulo aku Netherlands ali ndi zinthu zake zosiyana, monga zilango zovuta ngati wina ali wolumala kapena ngati mwana wosakwana zaka 16 wakokedwa kuchita zinthu zosayenera ndi munthu wina.
Kuyang'ana M'malire
Mukayang'ana mayiko oyandikana nawo, muwona zomwe zimafanana komanso zosiyana siyana. Belgium, mwachitsanzo, ilinso ndi zaka zovomerezeka ku 16, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti pakhale chithunzi chalamulo chogwirizana kudutsa malirewo. Sweden, kumbali ina, imayika mipiringidzo pang'ono ku 15, koma izi zimabwera ndi mikhalidwe yake komanso kutanthauzira kwalamulo.
Malamulo achi Dutch amatsamiradi pa chikhalidwe cha anthu, kupereka ufulu kwa osuma milandu ngati anthu omwe akukhudzidwawo ndi oyandikira msinkhu. Ndikuchita mwanzeru komwe cholinga chake ndi kulekanitsa kuzunzidwa kowona ndi maubwenzi achichepere.
Chithunzichi chimakupatsani chithunzithunzi cha mbalame cha momwe malamulowa amasiyanirana ndi kontinenti yonse.
Monga mukuwonera, pomwe zaka ngati 14, 15, ndi 16 zimawonekera pafupipafupi ku Europe konse, machitidwe amalamulo kumbuyo kwawo sali ofanana. Tiyeni tifotokoze zitsanzo zingapo zofunika.
Age of Consent Comparison ku Europe
Pano pali kuyang'ana mbali ndi mbali pa zaka za malamulo ovomerezeka ndi zochitika zilizonse zodziwika m'mayiko angapo osankhidwa a ku Ulaya. Imawonetsa kwambiri njira zosiyanasiyana zomwe zimatengedwa.
| Country | M'badwo Wovomereza | Zochitika Zapadera |
|---|---|---|
| Netherlands | 16 | Zikhulupiriro zotsala pang'ono kumasulidwa nthawi zambiri zimakhalapo. Kuwonjezeka kwa zilango zokakamiza kapena kuphatikizira anthu ena. |
| Germany | 14 | Kukwera kufika pa 16 ngati munthu wamkulu ali ndi udindo kapena wodalirika (mwachitsanzo, mphunzitsi kapena wosamalira). |
| France | 15 | Khalani pa 15, osasiyapo pafupi ndi zaka zakubadwa. Malamulo okhwima ngati pali kusiyana kwakukulu kwa zaka kapena kugwiritsa ntchito molakwika ulamuliro. |
| Spain | 16 | Adakwezedwa kuchokera ku 13 mpaka 16 mu 2015 kuti agwirizane ndi mayiko ena aku Europe. |
| Sweden | 15 | Imadziwika ndi 'lamulo logulira zogonana', lomwe limaletsa kugula, koma osagulitsa, ntchito zogonana. |
Kuyerekeza uku kukuwonekera momveka bwino kuti ngakhale kuti Netherlands ikugwirizana ndi anthu ambiri a ku Ulaya, malamulo ake pamapeto pake amapangidwa ndi chikhalidwe chake. Zomwe zachokera ku mabungwe azamalamulo zikuwonetsa kuti zikafika pakugonana ndi ana azaka zosakwana 16, milandu pafupifupi nthawi zonse imayang'ana mokakamiza kapena nkhanza, osati ngati kupsompsonana pakati pa anzawo. Izi zimawonetsetsa kuti milandu ikusungidwa pakachitika vuto kapena nkhanza zenizeni.
Kumvetsetsa Zotetezedwa Mwalamulo ndi Zotsatira
Pamene kunambidwa mlandu wakuchita ngati kupsompsona mwana wamng'ono, vuto limakhala lalikulu. Kutsatira zotsatila zamalamulo kumafuna kumvetsetsa zonse zomwe zingatetezedwe zomwe zilipo komanso zotulukapo zowopsa za kuweruzidwa. Lamulo silinapangidwe kuti likhale chida chosamveka; kumaphatikizapo ma nuances omwe angateteze anthu pazochitika zina pomwe amawalanga mu zina.
Lingaliro lofunika kwambiri mu malamulo aku Dutch ndi kuletsa achinyamata kukwatirana chifukwa cha msinkhu wawo . Lamuloli limagwira ntchito ngati chitetezo, lopangidwa kuti lipewe kuphwanya malamulo okhudza ubale wogwirizana pakati pa achinyamata omwe ali ndi zaka zofanana. Ganizirani izi ngati njira ya lamulo yosiyanitsira pakati pa chikondi cha achinyamata ndi mkhalidwe wokhudzana ndi nkhanza zenizeni.
Mwachitsanzo, ubale wogwirizana pakati pa wazaka 15 ndi wazaka 17 umaonedwa mosiyana kwambiri ndi ubale womwe umakhala ndi kusiyana kwakukulu kwa zaka. Komabe, kuchotsedwa kumeneku si chitsimikizo.
Pamene chitetezo Chitha
Chitetezo choperekedwa ndi kukhululukidwa kwanthawi yayitali chimasanduka nthunzi pamene kusalinganika kwa mphamvu kumalowa mu equation. Lamulo limakhala lolimba kwambiri pamene munthu wamkulu ali ndi udindo wodalirika kapena ulamuliro pa mwana wamng'ono.
Izi zikuphatikizapo maudindo monga:
- Mphunzitsi ndi wophunzira
- Mphunzitsi ndi wothamanga
- Wachibale yemwe ali ndi udindo
Muzochitika izi, lingaliro la ntchito yogwirizana ndi losafunika mwalamulo. Lamuloli likuganiza kuti mphamvu yamphamvu imapangitsa chilolezo chenicheni kukhala chosatheka, ndipo mchitidwe uliwonse wogonana, kuphatikiza kupsompsona, ukhoza kuyimbidwa mlandu ngati mlandu waukulu. Chitetezo cha kuvomereza kwazing'ono sichikupezeka.
Mfundo yaikulu ndi chitetezo. Chibwenzi chikakhudza kugwiritsa ntchito molakwa chidaliro kapena ulamuliro, zitetezero zilizonse zamalamulo zokhudzana ndi chilolezo kapena kuyandikira zaka zimathetsedwa nthawi yomweyo. Kuyikirako kumasinthiratu ndikuteteza mwana kuti asagwiritse ntchito.
Zilango zowoloka mizereyi ndizazikulu ndipo zidapangidwa kuti ziwonetse kukula kwa cholakwacho. Kuweruzidwa kungayambitse chindapusa chachikulu, koma chochititsa mantha kwambiri, chimatha kutsekeredwa m'ndende. Chigamulo chenicheni chimadalira zenizeni za mlandu, monga kusiyana kwa zaka ndi chikhalidwe cha mchitidwewo.
Kupatula chindapusa ndi nthawi ya ndende, kuweruzidwa kukhala wolakwa kumapanga chizindikiro chokhalitsa. Kuti mumvetse zotsatira zake kwa nthawi yayitali, ndikofunikira kudziwa kuti mbiri yaupandu ndi chiyani komanso momwe ingakhudzire ntchito, maulendo, ndi mbiri yaumwini mtsogolo. Popeza pali mavuto, kuyang'anizana ndi mlandu wotere si nthawi yoti musadziwe. Ndikofunikira kwambiri kufunafuna uphungu wa zamalamulo nthawi yomweyo kuti mumvetsetse ufulu wanu ndikukumana ndi zovuta za dongosolo lazamalamulo.
Mafunso omwe amafunsidwa kawirikawiri okhudza malire ovomerezeka okhudza kulumikizana ndi ana
Kodi Kukodola Pamasaya Kungakhale Kosaloledwa?
Kawirikawiri, kupsompsonana kwakanthawi kochepa, kosagonana sikungakhale koletsedwa. Malamulo aku Dutch adapangidwa kuti azitsatira zochita zomwe zili ndi cholinga chogonana kapena zomwe zimaphatikizapo nkhanza, osati machitidwe osalakwa achikondi pakati pa anthu. Komabe, nkhani ndiyofunika kwambiri. Kupsompsonana kwa mnzanu wa m'banja pa phwando la kubadwa kumawonedwa mosiyana kwambiri ndi kupsompsonana komwe kumachitika ndi munthu wamkulu pazochitika zomwe zingatanthauzidwe mosavuta. Zonsezi zimadalira kusunga malire omveka bwino, osagonana kuti tipewe chisokonezo chilichonse.
Kodi Ndingadziwe Bwanji Ngati Ubale Ukuyenera Kukhululukidwa Kwambiri?
Malamulo okhudza kulekerera anthu azaka zocheperako, omwe mungamve akutchedwa malamulo a “Romeo ndi Juliet” m'malo ena, kwenikweni ndi okhudza ubale wogwirizana pakati pa achinyamata omwe ali ndi zaka zocheperako. Kuno ku Netherlands, lamuloli si lamulo lovuta komanso lachangu koma ndi chida chosankha chomwe otsutsa angagwiritse ntchito. Adzayang'ana zinthu zingapo zofunika kuti asankhe ngati kulekerera kungagwirizane ndi izi: Kusiyana pang'ono kwa zaka: Nthawi zambiri timangolankhula za kusiyana kwa zaka zochepa chabe.; Ubale wogwirizana: Ndikofunikira kuti anthu onse awiri omwe akukhudzidwa azigwirizana.; Palibe kusalingana kwa mphamvu: Munthu wamkulu sangakhale paudindo kapena kudalirika, monga mphunzitsi, mphunzitsi, kapena woyang'anira. Ndikofunikira kuzindikira kuti kulekerera kumeneku kulipo kuti tipewe kuphwanya malamulo omwe ambiri angaone ngati ubale wamba wa achinyamata. Si njira yopulumukira akuluakulu kapena pazochitika zilizonse zokhudzana ndi kukakamiza kapena kuzunza.
Kodi Ndingatani Ngati Ndiimbidwa Mlandu Wonama?
Ngati inu kapena munthu amene mumamudziwa akuimbidwa mlandu woti sanagwirizane bwino ndi mwana wanu, choyamba komanso chofunikira kwambiri ndikupeza upangiri wa zamalamulo nthawi yomweyo. Musayese kufotokozera apolisi kapena wotsutsa nokha nkhaniyi. Mawu anu amatha kupotozedwa mosavuta kapena kuchotsedwa munkhani ndikugwiritsidwa ntchito motsutsana nanu pambuyo pake. Loya wodziwa bwino ntchito yoteteza milandu angakutetezeni ufulu wanu kuyambira pachiyambi. Adzakupatsani upangiri pa zomwe mungachite (ndi zomwe simuyenera kuchita) ndikuyamba kupanga chitetezo kutengera zenizeni za mlandu wanu. Kuchitapo kanthu mwachangu ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti muyende bwino pamilandu.
Kodi kupsompsonana ndi mwana wamng'ono nthawi zonse ndi mlandu?
Osati zokha. Lamuloli lilibe lamulo limodzi lenileni la kupsompsonana kamodzi; kuchita zinthu mwachikondi nthawi zambiri sikuletsedwa, koma kuchita zinthu zomwezo kungakhudze milandu ngati zikuonedwa kuti ndi khalidwe losayenera kapena gawo la kugonana ndi munthu wosakwana zaka zovomerezeka.
Kodi makhoti amaona zinthu ziti kuti aone ngati mlandu woterewu ndi mlandu waukulu?
Makhoti amafufuza zinthu zingapo, kuphatikizapo mtundu wa kukhudzana, monga ngati kunali kwachikondi kapena kugonana, kusiyana kwa zaka pakati pa anthu okhudzidwa, komanso ngati munthu wamkuluyo anali ndi udindo wodalirika, ulamuliro, kapena wodalira mwana wamng'ono.
N’chifukwa chiyani kusiyana kwa zaka pakati pa anthu omwe akukhudzidwa ndi nkhani imeneyi n’kofunika kwambiri mwalamulo?
Kusiyana kwakukulu kwa zaka kungasonyeze kwambiri cholinga ndipo kumaonedwa mosiyana kwambiri ndi kukhudzana pakati pa anzawo azaka zapafupi, chifukwa kumasonyeza kusalingana kwa mphamvu ndi kufooka komwe kumakhudzidwa.
N’chifukwa chiyani lamulo limayang’ana kwambiri pa kuteteza ana aang’ono pazochitika ngati zimenezi?
Malamulo apangidwa kuti ateteze ana ku nkhanza ndi kuzunzidwa, kotero nkhani yonse ndi momwe zinthu zilili zimayesedwa m'malo mongoyang'ana zochita zokha zokha.
