Thandizo Lalamulo Ndi Alimony: Momwe Mungapewere Zodabwitsa Zosasangalatsa

Alimony (kusamalira abwenzi) amatha kumva ngati chandamale chosuntha. Mphindi ina mukukambilana za “zomwe zimawoneka ngati zachilungamo,” ndipo ina mukukumana ndi malamulo okhwima achi Dutch okhudzana ndi zosowa ndi kuthekera kolipira, kuwerengera, kuyanjana ndi mapindu, ndi malire a nthawi yovomerezeka—ndi zotsatira zenizeni za kayendedwe ka ndalama. Kaya mukuyembekeza kulipira kapena kulandira chithandizo, zodabwitsa zosasangalatsa kaŵirikaŵiri zimabwera kuchokera ku malingaliro osadziwika bwino: lamulo liti, momwe chithandizo cha ana chimakhalira patsogolo, momwe makhoti amawerengera ndalama, nthawi yomwe malipiro amatha, ndi zomwe zimachitika ngati ndalama zanu kapena zochitika za banja zisintha.

Nkhani yabwino: misampha yambiri imatha kupewedwa ndi dongosolo lokhazikika komanso chitsogozo chazamalamulo. Mwa kufotokoza bwino za ubale wanu ndi zolinga zanu, kusonkhanitsa mfundo zoyenera zachuma, kulinganiza chisamaliro cha ana ndi okondedwa pamodzi, ndikusankha njira yoyenera (kukambilana, kuyimira pakati, kapena bwalo lamilandu), mutha kukwaniritsa mawu omveka bwino, ovomerezeka omwe akugwirizana ndi malamulo achi Dutch ndi tsogolo lanu. Limbikitsani kutha kusintha, kulipira kotetezeka, ndikukonzekera misonkho ndi zopindulitsa kuti musasokonezedwe pambuyo pake.

Bukuli limakuyendetsani pang'onopang'ono kudzera mu alimony ku Netherlands - zomwe zimagwira ntchito pa maukwati, maubwenzi olembetsa, ndi mapangano okhalira limodzi; momwe makhothi amawerengera kwenikweni chithandizo; malamulo a nthawi ndi kuthetsa; kupanga ziganizo zomwe zimalepheretsa mikangano; kulimbitsa chitetezo cha mthupi; ndi nthawi yoti mupeze thandizo lazamalamulo. Tiyeni tiyambe ndikuyika lamulo lomwe limayendetsa mkhalidwe wanu.

Gawo 1. Fotokozani momwe ubale wanu uliri ndi lamulo lomwe likugwira ntchito

Kupeza thandizo la zamalamulo pankhani ya ndalama zothandizira ana kuti mupewe zodabwitsa zosasangalatsa kumayamba ndi kuzindikira udindo wanu mwalamulo. Ku Netherlands, ukwati ndi mgwirizano wolembetsedwa zimayambitsa malamulo okhwima okhudza kusamalira okwatirana ; kukhala limodzi sikutero. Palibe "ukwati wamba": anthu okhala limodzi ayenera kukonza ufulu wawo mwa mgwirizano (nthawi zambiri kudzera mu mgwirizano wa notarial wokhala limodzi) ndipo, ngati kuli koyenera, mwa chifuniro.

• Okwatirana/olembetsa: Kukonza kogwirizana ndi malamulo kukugwira ntchito; ndalama zitha kuvomerezedwa ndi mkhalapakati, loya, kapena notary yazamalamulo.
• Okhala limodzi osakwatirana (palibe mgwirizano): Palibe ufulu wodziwikiratu wothandizana nawo, kugawana nawo penshoni, kapena cholowa.
• Osakwatirana ndi mgwirizano wa cohabitation: Mapangano amatha kuwongolera chithandizo koma amapereka chitetezo chocheperako kuposa ukwati.
• Kuthetsa ubale: Kusudzulana/kuthetsa mgwirizano wolembetsedwa kumadutsa kukhoti; kukhalira limodzi nthawi zambiri kumatha ndi mgwirizano/chidziwitso.

Khwerero 2. Fotokozani zolinga zanu ndi kuwonekera pachiwopsezo (wolipira kapena wolandila)

Musanawerenge manambala, sankhani momwe "chipambano" chikuonekera kwa inu. Zolinga zomveka bwino zimathandiza loya wanu kupanga njira, kukambirana za kusinthana koyenera, ndikulemba mawu okhazikika. Kaya mumalipira kapena kulandira chithandizo, apa ndi pomwe thandizo lalamulo ndi alimony limapewa zodabwitsa zosasangalatsa mwa kugwirizanitsa ziyembekezo ndi malamulo aku Dutch okhudza kufunika kosamalira ana, indexation, ndi nthawi.

• Ngati ndiwe wolipira: Fotokozani zothekera ndi malire a ndalama, lemekezani zomwe mwana amaika patsogolo, khalani ndi nthawi yovomerezeka, konzekerani ndalama zosinthika, ndikusankha njira (kukambilana/mkhalapakati/bwalo lamilandu) yoyang'anira mtengo ndi chiwopsezo.
• Ngati ndinu wolandira: Kuwerengera zofunikira zenizeni (bajeti), wunikani mapulani a ntchito ndi nthawi yake, lingalirani zamisonkho/mapindu, ndi njira zodalirika zokamitsira ngati ndalama zaphonya.

Gawo 3. Sonkhanitsani ndi kukonza mfundo zachuma

Kusamalira bwino mnzanu kumadalira mfundo zenizeni, osati kungoganizira chabe. Kuti mupeze thandizo la zamalamulo pankhani ya ndalama zothandizira ana komanso kupewa zodabwitsa zosasangalatsa, konzani phukusi limodzi lokhala ndi umboni wakale lomwe limasonyeza ndalama zomwe mumapeza, ndalama zoyenera zogulira, thandizo lomwe lilipo, komanso kuthekera kolipira. Izi zimathandiza kuti pakhale mgwirizano, kukulitsa zokambirana, ndipo—ngati pakufunika—zimathandiza khoti kuona kuti ziwerengero zanu ndi zokwanira komanso zotsimikizika.

• Ndalama: Malipiro aposachedwa, ziganizo zapachaka, mabonasi/makomisheni, ndi zopindulitsa zilizonse kapena zolipirira.
• Ndalama zodzipangira okha: Kubweza msonkho komaliza, phindu ndi kutayika, ndi mawu achidule ofotokozera ndalama zosinthika.
• Thandizo lomwe liripo: Umboni wa mwana aliyense kapena bwenzi limene mumalipira/kulandira.
• Mtengo wa nyumba: Rent/ndalama, ndalama zolipirira ntchito, mphamvu, misonkho yamatauni.
• Zaumoyo ndi inshuwaransi: Malipiro a inshuwaransi yazaumoyo ndi inshuwaransi zina zofunika.
• Mtengo wa mwana: Ma invoice osamalira ana, chindapusa cha sukulu, zochita, zosowa zapadera.
• Ngongole ndi katundu: Ndemanga za ngongole, kubweza pang'ono, ndalama zosungirako / zogulitsa ndi ndalama.

Gawo 4. Dziwani kaye kasamalidwe ka ana

Kuti mupewe zinthu zosasangalatsa, dziwani bwino za kasamalidwe ka ana musanalankhule za kusamalira mnzanu. Zosowa za ana zimayendetsa bajeti ya banja ndipo zimakhudza mwachindunji zonse "zosowa" (wolandira) ndi "kukhoza kulipira" (wolipira). Chitani ichi ngati mzati wanu woyamba wazachuma: mukapeza chithandizo cha ana, mutha kutengera malo oyenerera osamalira anzanu.

• Mapulani a chisamaliro cha mapu: Onani nthawi ya moyo wa mwana aliyense; zimakhudza mtengo ndi kayendedwe ka ndalama.
• Sungani ndalama za mwana: Kusamalira ana, maphunziro, chisamaliro chaumoyo, ntchito, ndi zosowa zapadera zilizonse.
• Phatikizani zopindulitsa/zolipirira: Lembani phindu lililonse lokhudzana ndi ana lomwe limachepetsa ndalama zomwe mumawononga.
• Gwirizanani bwino ndi ndalamazo: Gwiritsani ntchito mkhalapakati, loya, kapena notary yazamalamulo kuti mulembe mawu.
• Pangani bajeti: Lingalirani za kulera kwa ana komwe mwagwirizana mu bajeti za onse awiri musanayambe kukambirana za chithandizo.

Khwerero 5. Phunzirani momwe makhothi aku Dutch amawerengera ndalama zosamalira anzawo

Makhoti amatsatira mfundo zothandiza: choyamba ateteze ana, kenako agwirizane ndi "zosowa" za wolandirayo ndi "mphamvu yolipira" ya wolipira. Kufunika ndi bajeti yoyenera yapakhomo yoyesedwa poyerekeza ndi moyo watsiku ndi tsiku, pomwe kuthekera kolipira kumayambira pa ndalama zotsimikizika ndikuchotsa ndalama zenizeni ndi ndalama zomwe zavomerezedwa zosamalira ana. Oweruza amafufuza manambala athunthu komanso ogwirizana omwe amathandizidwa ndi zikalata. Kupereka mlandu wanu mwanjira iyi ndi thandizo lofunikira la zamalamulo ndi thandizo la ndalama zothandizira ana kuti mupewe zodabwitsa zosasangalatsa.

• Tsimikizirani ndalama: Gwiritsani ntchito mapepala olipira, ziganizo za chaka, zobweza msonkho; fotokozani mabonasi ndi malipiro osinthika okhala ndi zaka zambiri.
• Onetsani bajeti zenizeni: Imodzi pagulu lililonse, yolipira nyumba, chisamaliro chaumoyo, ndi ndalama zokhudzana ndi ana.
• Ikani patsogolo ana: Chotsani chisamaliro cha ana musanapangire chipinda chothandizira anzawo.
• Malipiro a mbendera: Phatikizaninso momwe amachepetsera kapena kulipira ndalama zinazake kuti ziwerengero zikhale zodalirika.

Khwerero 6. Yang'anani malamulo a nthawi yayitali komanso chithandizo chitatha

Kutalika ndi mtengo wanu. Kuyambira 2020, lamulo loti kusamalira okondedwa kumatenga theka lautali waukwati, womwe umakhala zaka zisanu. Mwachitsanzo, ukwati wa zaka zitatu ndi miyezi iwiri umatulutsa pafupifupi chaka chimodzi ndi miyezi isanu ndi umodzi yosamalira; zaka khumi ndi chimodzi zimapereka zaka zisanu. Okhala limodzi alibe ufulu wodziwikiratu. Mungathe kukonza limodzi—makamaka ndi mkhalapakati, loya, kapena notary-law-law-choncho konzani nthawi kuti mupeze chithandizo chalamulo ndi alimony ndikupewa zodabwitsa.

• Tchulani mawu akuti: Lembani tsiku loyambira ndi tsiku lomaliza za chisamaliro cha abwenzi mu mgwirizano wanu kapena khothi.
• Ndemanga zokonzekera: Gwirizanani kuti mudzawonanso ziwerengerozo liti (mwachitsanzo, pachaka) ndi njira yochitira izi (kukambirana/kuyanjanitsa kukhothi).
• Khalani osasinthasintha: Gwirizanitsani mawuwo ndi makonzedwe okhudzana ndi ana kuti bajeti ikhale yotheka panthawi yonse yosamalira.

Gawo 7. Sankhani ndondomeko yanu: kukambirana, kuyimira pakati, kapena bwalo lamilandu

Kusankha njira kumatsimikizira mtengo, liwiro, kuwongolera, ndi kukakamiza. Thandizo lazamalamulo ndi alimony kuti mupewe zodabwitsa zosasangalatsa limayamba ndikufanizira msonkhanowo ndi mikangano yanu - ndikulemba mgwirizano uliwonse ndi mkhalapakati, loya, kapena notary.

• Kukambirana (ndi maloya): Zimagwira ntchito ngati mfundo zimveka bwino; mofulumira, mwachinsinsi; khazikitsani ziganizo ndikuzilemba, kudzera mwa notary.
• Kuyanjanitsa: Kusalowerera ndale komwe kumakuthandizani kuti mufikire mgwirizano womwe ungagwire ntchito, wongoyang'ana ana pamtengo wotsika; mgwirizano ukhoza kutheka.
• Khoti: Kwa ma stalemates kapena madongosolo achangu; yowonjezereka, yochepetsetsa, komanso yotsika mtengo - koma imapereka chiweruzo chokhazikika.

Gawo 8: Lembani mawu omveka bwino omwe amalepheretsa mikangano pambuyo pake

Kusamveka bwino kumayambitsa mikangano. Ku Netherlands, nthawi zambiri mumavomereza zosamalira mnzanu ndi mkhalapakati, loya, kapena notary. Kuti mupeze chithandizo chalamulo ndi alimony ndikupewa zodabwitsa zosasangalatsa, lembani mawu achindunji, owerengeka, komanso osavuta kupereka. Nenani zimango tsopano; mudzapulumutsa miyezi yakusamvana pambuyo pake.

• Zolipirira: Kuchuluka, tsiku loyambira, tsiku loyenera, mafupipafupi, ndi akaunti yakubanki.
• Nthawi ndi indexation: Lembani tsiku lomaliza ndipo ngati malamulo indexation zimagwira.
• Kugwirizana kwa mwana woyamba: Kugwirizana ndi kusamalira mwana; fotokozani zoyambitsa kuunikanso.
• Sinthani protocol: Umboni, zidziwitso, ndi kuyanjanitsa - njira yoyamba ya mkangano.

Khwerero 9. Konzekerani misonkho, zopindulitsa, ndi kayendetsedwe ka ndalama

Ngakhale ndalama zomwe mwakambirana bwino zimatha kulephera kuchita ngati simukukonzekera kayendetsedwe ka ndalama. Thandizo limasintha zithunzi za ndalama ndipo lingakhudze zopindulitsa kapena zolipirira. Indexation imatha kukweza ndalama chaka chilichonse. Pangani ndondomeko yosavuta yolipirira tsopano-apa ndipamene thandizo lalamulo ndi alimony kupewa zodabwitsa zosasangalatsa limapereka.

• Onetsani zotsatira za ukonde: Pulojekiti ya miyezi 12-24 kuphatikiza chithandizo cha ana, thandizo la anzawo, ndi indexing yoyembekezeredwa.
• chimango malipiro kupeza ndalama: Sankhani tsiku loyenera logwirizana ndi ndalama zomwe mumalipira kuti musamalipire mochedwa.
• Tetezani zopindulitsa/zopereka: Yang'ananinso zoyenera pamene ndalama kapena chithandizo chasintha; sinthani maulamuliro mwachangu.
• Pangani buffer: Gwirani malipiro a miyezi 1-3 m'malo owopsa.
• Sayiniranitu ndemanga: Khalani ndi mkhalapakati/loya komanso katswiri wamisonkho-onani ziwerengero ndi malingaliro.

Gawo 10. Pangani kusinthasintha kwa kusintha kwa zochitika

Kusintha kwa ntchito, thanzi, nyumba, ndi chisamaliro cha ana. Kuti mupeze thandizo la zamalamulo pankhani ya ndalama zothandizira ana ndikupewa zodabwitsa zosasangalatsa, lembani kusinthasintha mu mgwirizano wanu—wolembedwa ndi mkhalapakati, loya, kapena notary wa malamulo aboma—kuti zosintha zikhale zodziwikiratu, zolembedwa, komanso mwana woyamba, osati nkhondo zadzidzidzi. Fotokozani nthawi ndi momwe ndemangayo idzachitikire.

• Onani mawindo ndi zidziwitso: Cheke chapachaka, chidziwitso cholembedwa, umboni.
• Njira yosinthira ndalama: Nthawi yapakati/bonasi; kapu yosavuta - pansi.
• Kusinthana kwa zikalata pachaka: Malipiro, zikalata za chaka, mtengo wamwana.

Gawo 11. Gwirizanitsani alimony ndi kugawa katundu ndi penshoni

Alimony sakhala m'malo opanda kanthu. Kugawikana kwa katundu ndi penshoni zimatsimikizira kukhala ndi ndalama pakali pano komanso chitetezo pambuyo pake. Kwa anthu okwatirana/olembetsa, izi zimathetsedwa pamodzi ndi chisamaliro; anthu okhala m'banja nthawi zambiri amafuna mawu omveka bwino olembedwa. Lembani phukusi lonse ndi mkhalapakati, loya, kapena notary - ichi ndi chithandizo chofunikira chazamalamulo ndi alimony kuti mupewe zodabwitsa.

• Gwirizanitsani chithandizo ndi nyumba: Gwirizanitsani masiku ogula/kugulitsa ku ndalama zoyendetsera ndalama ndi chithandizo chilichonse chakanthawi.
• Samalani posinthanitsa ndalama zothandizira: Konzani masiku owerengera ndikuwonanso misonkho/zopindulitsa poyamba.
• Pensheni: Nenani momwe zokonda zimasamalidwa kapena kuthetsedwera; okhala pamodzi ayenera kukonza izi molemba.

Khwerero 12. Sungani malipiro ndikuchepetsa chiopsezo

Mapangano abwino amalephera ngati malipiro sangadziwike. Kuti mupeze chithandizo chalamulo ndi alimony ndikupewa zodabwitsa zosasangalatsa, sinthani mawu anu kukhala omveka bwino, oyenda bwino ndalama ndikulemba moyenera. Ku Netherlands, mapangano okhudza kukonza nthawi zambiri amapangidwa ndi mkhalapakati, loya, kapena notary - gwiritsani ntchito makonzedwe amenewo kukonza njira zolipirira komanso njira yolumikizirana yanu kuti izi zisokonezeke.

• Lembani bwino: Lowani kudzera mwa mkhalapakati / loya / notary; state IBAN, tsiku loyenera, pafupipafupi.
• Sinthani ndi kutsatira: Khazikitsani dongosolo loyimilira, mawu osasunthika, ndi kusunga zitsimikizo.
• Gwirizanitsani ndi ndalama: Sankhani tsiku loyenera mukangolandira malipiro.
• Sungani njira ya pepala: Sungani zizindikiro; kusinthanitsa chidule cha malipiro a pachaka ndi ndalama za ana.

Gawo 13. Konzekerani kutsatiridwa ndi kutsata

Kutsatira ndi komwe mapangano abwino amapambana. Sankhani tsopano momwe mungayang'anire, kulemba, ndi kukulitsa nkhani kuti ma hiccups asakhale mikangano. Ngati malipiro atha kapena mawu osatsatiridwa, gwiritsani ntchito njira yotsatiridwa: chidziwitso cholembera, mkhalapakati, ndiye bwalo kuti mutsirize. Kuwongolera kwamphamvu kwamawu - apa ndipamene thandizo lalamulo ndi alimony limapewa zodabwitsa zosasangalatsa.

• Sungani umboni: Zitsimikizo za banki, zikalata zolipira zokhazikika, makalata anthawi.
• Ikani indexation: Sinthani chaka chilichonse ngati kuli kotheka ndikutsimikizira ndalama zatsopano.
• Gwiritsani ntchito chidziwitso-ndi-machiritso: Tumizani chikumbutso cholembedwa ndi tsiku lomaliza lomveka bwino; ndiye mkhalapakati.
• Pangani kuti zitheke: Limbikitsani mgwirizano wanu kutheka kudzera mwa mkhalapakati / loya / notary; pewani kudzichotsera - lipirani ndendende momwe munavomerezera.

Khwerero 14. Dziwani nthawi yoti mulandire chithandizo chazamalamulo komanso choti mubweretse

Pakakhala zovuta kapena zovuta, cholakwika chaching'ono chikhoza kukhala chipale chofewa. Fufuzani thandizo lalamulo ndi alimony mwamsanga-ngati ndalama zimasinthasintha kapena zodzilemba nokha, ndinu ochokera kunja kapena kudutsa malire, munakhalira limodzi popanda ukwati, kapena mukufunikira mgwirizano wotsimikizirika kapena kukakamiza. Ku Netherlands, mawu okonza nthawi zambiri amakonzedwa ndi mkhalapakati, loya, kapena notary-law -kupewa zodabwitsa.

• ID ndi chizindikiro cha ubale
• Ndalama: payslips, statement ya chaka, tax return
• Nyumba, inshuwalansi, ndalama za ana
• Ubwino, ngongole, chidule cha katundu
• Nthawi, zolinga, ndi mafunso ofunika kwambiri

Zotsatira zotsatira

Tsopano muli ndi njira yothandiza kuti mupewe zodabwitsa: zindikirani kuti ndi lamulo liti lomwe likugwira ntchito, ikani ana patsogolo, gwiritsani ntchito bajeti yozikidwa ndi umboni, vomerezani mawu omveka bwino, ndipo khazikitsani kusinthasintha ndi kutsata dongosolo lanu. Chotsani mwachangu kuchoka pakukayika kupita kumveka bwino posintha masitepewa kukhala zochita zenizeni zomwe mungathe kumaliza sabata ino.

• Khazikitsani zolinga: Fotokozani zolinga zanu ndi malire owopsa (wolipira/wolandira).
• Sonkhanitsani mfundo: Pangani paketi yanu yaumboni (ndalama, bajeti, ndalama za ana).
• Zotsatira zachitsanzo: Konzani kasamalidwe ka mwana, kenako kuwerengera kasamalidwe ka mnzanu ndi nthawi yake.
• Sankhani forum yanu: Sankhani zokambirana, mkhalapakati, kapena bwalo lamilandu-ndi nthawi yowona.
• Lembani bwino: Lembani mawu ovomerezeka ndi indexation, zoyambitsa zowunikira, ndi makina olipira.

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